It Was Never About You
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Explore The Living Library of Remembering: https://books2read.com/ConnectedUniverse 📖 Join our Substack community https://connecteduniversity.substack.com ----- You learned to read the room Before learning your own name Measured every footstep Tried to soften every flame You thought if you were better If you never made a sound Maybe all the raging anger Would somehow stop coming down You carried every accusation Every silence, every bruise And made a child’s conclusion That there was something wrong with you But you were never the reason Someone chose to cross the line You were never born to carry What was never yours or mine It was never about you Never about your worth You did not cause the thunder You did not call it forth You were learning to survive What you never should have known It was never about you You were innocent all alone And sometimes, years later The familiar feels like home A voice that turns to fury A love that makes you small Chaos feels like passion Jealousy like care Because the heart remembers What it learned to find familiar there But familiar isn’t safety And intensity isn’t love You don’t have to keep returning To the places you’ve outgrown You can learn another language One where no is not a crime Where love does not demand your fear And peace is not a warning sign It was never about you Never about your worth You did not cause the thunder You did not call it forth You were learning how to survive What you never should have known It was never about you You were worthy all alone Maybe your mother carried sorrow That her mother carried, too Maybe your father learned his anger From what someone put him through Pain can travel generations Where nobody knows what else to do But understanding isn’t pardon And inheritance isn’t fate You can decide what does not get through You can stand inside the gate The shame can stop here The silence can heal The rage can stop here The fear can stop here The hand can stay open The child can be believed The word no can be honored The body can be set free It was never about you But what happens next can be You can break the old inheritance And choose what leaves you free You can learn to hold your anger Without handing someone pain You can love without controlling You can choose another way It was never about you But it doesn’t have to pass through you What was handed down for generations Can end with what you choose to do So give the blame back gently Keep the wisdom, keep your name Keep the child inside you knowing They were never born for shame And if someday, someone after you Knows love without the fear They may never know the battle That finally ended here It was never about you And it doesn’t have to pass through you